The Arbitrary Nature Of Fear And Worry

This article is about the arbitrary nature of fear and worry and the way that your subconscious ignores most of your ‘real’ fears in favour of just one, specially for you.

If you suffer from one of the many anxieties that modern life offers read on. From fear of being sick, fear of food poisoning, fear of fainting or going mad,fainting,blushing,needing the loo,having a panic attack,looking nervous,public speaking,being trapped; the list is endless.

Anxiety and fear is based on the idea that something bad is going to happen and that the terrible event is too awful to contemplate, it would be earth shattering and must be avoided at all costs.

Yet, is it not strange that so many different people suffer from so many different fears and anxieties, but each person suffers from just one? Yet all of them are rational, in the sense that they are all possible. Somehow the sufferer of a fear of X is very likely not to have a fear of Y, unless you have a fear of mathematics! Very rarely does someone worry about all the possible things that could happen to them. It is as if one fear is enough. We know that dreaded thing could happen, so we spend a lot of time and energy trying to reduce that possibility of that particular thing happening. Planning, avoidance and dread is the order of the day.

In my work as a therapist helping sufferers of anxiety I often ask them why they do not fear all of the other things that could happen in their life. They often respond with the confident assertion;” Oh I will deal with that if it happens”. In other words they cannot be bothered to worry about it in advance, even though the possible experience would be unpleasant and upsetting. They are too busy worrying about their own personal fear to spend time worrying about all the other ones, however possible or rational.

My point here is that the chosen fear is abitrary. The fear could be any one of a hundred possible ‘worst case scenarios’. Yet the subconscious has settled on just the one, leaving the other 99 to chance, with a happy go lucky shrug of the shoulders. We dismiss the 99.

How could this perspective help those that suffer from anxiety?

Well, it often helps to look to your strengths instead of dwelling on your weaknesses. By concentrating on your ability to shrug off all those 99 fears, you can use this fact to help build your confidence. Because you clearly are coping very well in a world of so many possibilities and have a natural ability in dealing with those 99 fears. OK, so you go weak and wobbly at your own chosen fear but look at how you deal with the 99. Resourcefulness is the opposite of anxiety and by musing on your innate happy go lucky attitude to the majority of terrible things that could happen is a confidence builder.

Try it.

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Misophonia, the panic and anger reaction to sounds

Misophonia is a newly discovered disorder which makes sufferers react to sounds with anger.

Strong negative emotions are induced by certain sounds sending the Misophonia patient into a spin of unwanted feelings and panic attack symptoms and a full “flight or flight” response.

Scientists have discovered that they can trace the way the brain responds to sounds and monitor the route through the brain using MRI scanning. Plotting the direct link between the input of sounds through to the resulting emotional responses. Due to these brain imaging techniques it appears that the brains of Misophonia sufferers are ‘hard wired’ in such a way as to produce the symptoms.

I would be curious to know what makes scientists think that this wiring is ‘hard wired’. If a psychological reaction can be traced through the brain, is that evidence of hard wiring? Cannot all emotions, fears, panics, have a neurological explanation? Would not any emotional response to any trigger, light up the MRI screen in a similar way?

Maybe these MRI scans are supporting scientists in an inaccurate mood of fatalism in how emotional responses occur in a person. Creating the title Misophonia makes the condition ‘genuine’, the scans are ‘evidence of a physical basis’ for the problem and patients are no longer laughed at by their GPs.

What happened to the concept of Neuroplasticity, the ability of the brain to be adaptable? Neurogenesis, the ability to create new neural pathways has been a big feature of neuroscience for the last 20 years.

Neuroplasticity has given much hope to therapists because it supports the patient in their quest for change and development. The old hard wired model of the brain has roots, not only in ideas about the brain, but in Freudian ideology. Freud contended that childhood or even infancy is the time where your future is decided, that your brain (your psychology) is fixed from that early time.

The discovery of how the brain adapts through life, Neurogenesis, gives hope where there was once a fatalism.

My suspicion is that because brain imaging can trace a brain response from a trigger such as sound to an emotion such as anger, scientists are saying that it is a done deal. Look, there is the link on the screen, those links are how things are, no cure.

What about those that suffer from panic attacks? Surely similar brain pathways can be traced. It is well documented that panic attacks are curable, that whatever pathway had been set up in the brain can indeed by re-routed to produce calmer responses. Those that suffer from phobias would have a well defined neurological pathway. Many phobias and panic responses can be treated successfully.

Interestingly researchers have found that the condition worsened in response to cognitive behavioural therapy in one patient.

But surely, if you can talk it up, you can talk it down.

Hypnotherapy In London For A Fear Of Tube Trains And Buses

London is a busy place and many have fears and anxieties about going on tubes and trains and buses.

If you suffer from the fear and anxiety that often comes with having to travel by train or bus. Do let me know, maybe some hypnosis in my Harley St London clinic might help.

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Hypnotherapy For Panic Attacks And Social Phobia

Panic attacks can really inhibit where you go and what you do. Watch my into on how I use hypnotherapy to beat the fear of panic attacks so that you can build your confidence in going out.

Hypnotherapy is used to help calm things down so that you feel you have more control of what your body and mind is doing.

Give me a call if you fancy a session or two in central London.

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Fear Of Being Sick

Over the years I have noticed that the fear of being sick has nearly always being the most clicked on page on my website.

Its not a fear that you hear much about but it must be very common judging from the interest.

Fear of being sick is one of the main panic attack symptoms where you think something rather nasty will happen or is happening, but it rarely does happen.

The old fear of the fear is here.

In fact any bodily function can be felt to be nearly happening. Blushing, sweating, heart and breathing problems, needing to pee, or poo,fainting, the list goes on. And any of these potential symptoms feed into the fear of the fear loop.

A mixture of CBT and Hypnotherapy is a good therapy intervention for these fears where the client is invited to imagine being calm and in control.

Give me a ring or email me if you have questions about any of this.

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If Hugh Grant Has Panic Attacks What Hope Is There?

According to this article, Hugh Grant suffers from panic attacks and has to pop a pill on set to keep his cool.

So its all real, the stuttering, the diffidence  and the unsureness.. not acting at all.

And if Hugh Grant is unsure of himself what hope is there for the rest of us?

Well at least this is something to share with my clients, that even the millionaire film star with women at his feet needs a little help now and again.