The Arbitrary Nature Of Fear And Worry

This article is about the arbitrary nature of fear and worry and the way that your subconscious ignores most of your ‘real’ fears in favour of just one, specially for you.

If you suffer from one of the many anxieties that modern life offers read on. From fear of being sick, fear of food poisoning, fear of fainting or going mad,fainting,blushing,needing the loo,having a panic attack,looking nervous,public speaking,being trapped; the list is endless.

Anxiety and fear is based on the idea that something bad is going to happen and that the terrible event is too awful to contemplate, it would be earth shattering and must be avoided at all costs.

Yet, is it not strange that so many different people suffer from so many different fears and anxieties, but each person suffers from just one? Yet all of them are rational, in the sense that they are all possible. Somehow the sufferer of a fear of X is very likely not to have a fear of Y, unless you have a fear of mathematics! Very rarely does someone worry about all the possible things that could happen to them. It is as if one fear is enough. We know that dreaded thing could happen, so we spend a lot of time and energy trying to reduce that possibility of that particular thing happening. Planning, avoidance and dread is the order of the day.

In my work as a therapist helping sufferers of anxiety I often ask them why they do not fear all of the other things that could happen in their life. They often respond with the confident assertion;” Oh I will deal with that if it happens”. In other words they cannot be bothered to worry about it in advance, even though the possible experience would be unpleasant and upsetting. They are too busy worrying about their own personal fear to spend time worrying about all the other ones, however possible or rational.

My point here is that the chosen fear is abitrary. The fear could be any one of a hundred possible ‘worst case scenarios’. Yet the subconscious has settled on just the one, leaving the other 99 to chance, with a happy go lucky shrug of the shoulders. We dismiss the 99.

How could this perspective help those that suffer from anxiety?

Well, it often helps to look to your strengths instead of dwelling on your weaknesses. By concentrating on your ability to shrug off all those 99 fears, you can use this fact to help build your confidence. Because you clearly are coping very well in a world of so many possibilities and have a natural ability in dealing with those 99 fears. OK, so you go weak and wobbly at your own chosen fear but look at how you deal with the 99. Resourcefulness is the opposite of anxiety and by musing on your innate happy go lucky attitude to the majority of terrible things that could happen is a confidence builder.

Try it.

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Social Anxiety Treated With Hypnotherapy In London

It’s not much fun if you have Social Anxiety and live in London. But help is on hand.

Hypnotherapy can help you by giving you the tools to be calm and relaxed.

The combination of CBT and Hypnotherapy has been proved to be very effective in treating Social Anxiety, so go and give it a try.

Do give me a call at my Harley St office or email with any questions.

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Can Hypnotherapy Really Stop Someone Smoking?

Well the answer is in the question. Why would I want to stop you smoking?

In other words Hypnotherapy supports and encourages and even inspires you to do something you want to do and if that is to stop smoking then with a bit of luck you might stop. But it’s a free country and so if you want to smoke…by my guest.

A hypnotherapist is not in the business of making you do something you don’t want to do.

If you want to stop smoking then the hypnotherapist fans the little flame  of your desire to quit and builds that desire to as high as you can possible go. But it is your flame and your choice.

Try stopping smoking with me in Harley St Central London.

Here is a link to my Hypnotherapy In London site.

Claustrophobia Help With Hypnotherapy In London

Claustrophobia can surface in many different situations. Lifts,trains,crowded spaces or really any place where you start thinking…can I get out of here?

If claustrophobia is a problem for you do consider coming into London for some hypnotherapy.

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Hypnotherapy In London For Public Speaking

Here is an introduction to how I use hypnotherapy for a public speaking fear or phobia.

If you are interested to know if hypnotherapy and hypnosis could help you beat your fear of public speaking do let me know. Presentations,interviews and meetings can all be places that you fear you might go blank or dry up. Maybe hypnosis can help to give you the focus you need.

I work in  Harley St central London

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Dancing On Ice,Hypnotherapy and Me

Dancing on Ice  is back.

Fans of the last series might remember my contribution, not dancing, but helping contestant Zoe Salmon to progress in the competition. ITV sent me the very capable Zoe  Salmon who wanted to focus and enjoy her childhood dream of Dancing On Ice.

We did just the one session, TV doesnt hang around, but Zoe was well motivated to get the most out of the hypnotherapy  session.

Wonder if they will ask me again?

Hypnosis, Imagination, And Placebo All Reduce Pain

Pain relief is one of the seemingly magical effects of hypnosis and hypnotherapy.

This study compares Hypnosis with Imagination and Placebo and found that all three reduce pain and that Imaginiation is as effective as Hypnosis.

Interesting stuff…well for me it is anyway.

The study also showed that expectation, the idea of a positive outcome, increases the effect of all three methods, while Placebo benefited the most from the expectation of success.

Now we know why snake oil salesman talk up their product, it really does make snake oil more effective!

Interested in using hypnosis to reduce pain, give me a call here